those who yield to evil are usually those who have placed themselves in a vulnerable position." 7. I estimate that 80% to 85% of the young people I interviewed, who were involved in a moral transgression of any sort, got involved in a home or an apartment. Do not let a bedroom become a familiar place to be with members of the opposite sex. Back rubs hove too often led to more intimate acts. DO NOT LIE DOWN BY EACH OTHER OR ON TOP OF EACH OTHER. ALSO, NEVER, NEVER, NEVER lie on top of each other. And, this advise applies to all young people - especially engaged couples. President Kimball advises us that, " danger spots likely to have most appeal among the youth, and which should be shunned as one would shun a poisonous serpent, are undesirable movies and improper TV programs." I have had many Church members (young and old) tell me that they just "overlook" the filth in a movie and not let it affect them adversely. You cannot go to a movie or to any entertainment which portrays sexual, violent or verbal pornographic material, as domost movies today, and not be affected and spiritually hurt. In fact, if you find that this kind of material does not offend you, then this is a sure sign that you have already been spiritually damagedin your life and dont even know it. President Kimball, in talking of drive-in movies, said the following:"There in the car, in dark privacy, with suggestive, voluptuous acting on the screen, was Satans near-perfect setting for sin. Bedrooms are not for entertaining friends of the opposite sex; not even to listen to records, watch TV, do homework or etc. Becoming too familiar with each other physically offers liberties NOT entitled to single couples, and is wrong. When you have a good night kiss (at the proper time in a relationship) dont recline to do it. "X", "R", and most "PG-13" and "PG" rated movies are NOT appropriate to see on dates or at any time. Where you are, who you are with, where you are going, what you are doing, and what time you are doing it, are all controlled by you, and will help or hinder you. DO NOT take the chance of dating nonmembers, or members who are untrained and faithless.: Do not rationalize this by saying that you are doing missionary work. among the most common sexual sins our young people commit are necking and petting. What they did not realize is that they dont stand straight all day - they sit, they stoop, they lean over, and their clothes become immodest. The message of the following rules is plain and simple: You CAN and must be the one to control your life in order to be free from sin. Necking or making out, the kissing-hugging session, is wrong IN AND OF ITSELF, not just because it may lead to something worse, I am not saying that there isnt a proper time in dating relationship to kiss. ALL looked well in the mirror as they stood there with shoulders back and standing up straight. Dont let a young couple go to parts of the home for long periods of time. EACH PARTNER SHOULD BE RESPONSIBLE FOR HIS OWN ACTIONS. Never say to yourself, "this young man or woman is so good that they could never do anything wrong. Also, when the young people are at your home, chaperone them. Never allow another person to control your actions.
Those who yield to evil are usually those who have placed themselves in a vulnerable position." To help substantiate what I have written, I have used many quotes from President Kimball, but much of the counsel comes from hours of interviews with young people. Missionary work must be done without hazard of emotional romantic involvement that leads to conditions which confuse the potential candidate as to his purpose in investigating or joining the Church, I am quite aware that we have faithful members of the Church who have joined as a result of exposure to the Church by their spouse. After that occasion, I had to announce for the girls to wear a T-shirt over their suits at future ward parties. You must have firmly planted in your mind right from wrong, and do not let ANYONE talk you into anything that would not meet the Saviors approval. Whatever they would do would be okay." Anyone can make errors. President Kimball put it this way: "The secret of the good life is in protection and prevention. This kind of friendshipping should be done in groups. I am not talking about the serious sin of "petting", but the lengthy make-out sessions that many feel are "okay" as long as you do not let it go too far. One of the most disappointing times I had as a Bishop was when I took the ward members swimming and saw the immodest suits the girls wore. Following many interviews, it became apparent, that the key to maintaining moral chastity was in preventive action. The Lord does not instruct us to do missionary work in romantic relationships. Not only do these improper relations often lead to fornication, pregnancy, and abortions---all ugly sins---but in and of themselves they are pernicious evils . Make sure all of your clothing is modest for all occasions.But, I have never talked to a young person yet who has committed a moral transgression of ANY kind who has not broken several of these rules.