Do not lie down by each other or on top of each other. To follow these rules will require humility and spiritual strength added to a desire to be valiant. or, unless you will be missing the Sophomore Prom." 2. President Kimball advises, "Everyboy should have been saving money for his mission and be free from any and all entanglements so he will be worthy. one can have all the blessings if he is in control and takes the experiences in proper turn, first some limited social get-acquainted contacts, then his mission, then hiscourting, then his temple marriage and his schooling and his family, then his lifes work," A word to you young ladies of the church: You should always encourage a young man to fulfill his mission. We are grateful for them; however, for every success story, there are numerous tragic stories of members and nonmembers alike being hurt by such, Have the faith to follow the prophet in this most important matter. How unfortunate that any LDS girl would own a swimming suit that she could not use for LDS functions. Even after the age of 18, it is desirable to date in couples or groups. We should be in from our dates by (college age) and (high school age) or sooner. Those who yield to evil are usually those who have placed themselves in a vulnerable position." To help substantiate what I have written, I have used many quotes from President Kimball, but much of the counsel comes from hours of interviews with young people. Missionary work must be done without hazard of emotional romantic involvement that leads to conditions which confuse the potential candidate as to his purpose in investigating or joining the Church, I am quite aware that we have faithful members of the Church who have joined as a result of exposure to the Church by their spouse. After that occasion, I had to announce for the girls to wear a T-shirt over their suits at future ward parties. There is hardly anything greater to assist you in obtaining the Celestial Kingdom than to be worthy to marry the right person a t the proper time in you life, in the Temple. He says that early dating is often done with parental approval, "yet it is near criminal to subject a tender child to the temptations of maturity." Remember, NO STEADY DATING until after missions. Sometimes when we start to like someone quite a bit, we tend to single date almost exclusively . When we are tired and have become more relaxed with each other through the evening, it is very easy to let down our guard . You both should be at your respective homes at this time. The rewards of a chaste live are far greater than the sacrifices necessary to follow this counsel. President Kimball tells us, "Any dating or pairing off in social contacts should be postponed until at least the age of 16 or older, and even then there should be much judgement used in selections and in the seriousness." President Kimball goes on to counsel us that beginning the dating process too soon almost always brings young immature marriages or immorality and sin. As we get older, we tend to think that we are "above" group dating. Do not make single dating the largest portion of your dating. Not all moral problems occur late at night, but many, many do! THIS DOES NOT MEAN that if you go to one of your homes you can stay up longer than this hour.They DO NOT bind you down, but rather free you from the things that cause countless heartaches.
Preface to parents and young adults: David of old, choice in the sight of God, allowed his eternal soul to fall into the depths of hell. I have looked into the tear-filled, sorrowful eyes of too many good latter-day saint youth involved in moral transgressions not to know how easy it is to fall. I dont mind your kissing each other after you have had several dates; [remember who he is speaking to here--returned missionaries], but not the Hollywood kiss, not the kiss of passion, but the kiss of affection, and there wont be any trouble. A French kiss is the "Hollywood" kiss that President Kimball described above. The prophet, President Kimball, tells us that, "in interviewing repenting young folks, as well as some older ones, I am frequently told that the couple met their defeat in the dark, at late hours, in secluded areas the car was most often the confessed seat of the difficulty, It became their brothel." BEWARE. If you are in a home or apartment with others and they slowly all leave except for you and your partner, then ONE OF YOU should leave at that time also! Now, please never go to bars - even just to dance or listen to the music.
Each partner should be responsible for his own actions. Yet, after many hundreds of hours of interviews, it became obvious that those who had fallen into transgression, had simply made some common errors. kissing would be saved at least until these later hallowed courtship days when they could be free from sex and have holy meaning." In an address delivered to RETURNED MISSIONARIES (not high school-aged people, but those in the courting years), President Kimball said, " . There are too many parties where parents are upstairs watching TV while the young people are in a dark basement dancing and making out in the corners!
Surely such a question would require a very complicated answer. Be aware of this and the environment that is associated with your childrens other activities. If your child is invited to a party at a friends home, dont "assume" it will be chaperoned. (By the way, just because parents are home doesnt mean they are "chaperoning".
NOTE TO PARENTS: Dont innocently apply "parent pressure" to your young people to disobey counsel by encouraging them to date by attending special dances before age 16. President Kimball does NOT qualify his counsel by saying. WAIT UP until your children come home from their dates.
It is an excellent idea to double or group date for most of your dating until at least the age of 18. NOTE TO PARENTS: You would be shocked to know the number of your young people that I have talked to that lost their virtue in their own front room, or family room, or bedroom, while their parents were home, but asleep in their own bedroom or in another part of the house.
These rules are strict, but, make no mistake, so is the Lord strict! Missions for young men of the church supersede marriage in importance from ages 19 to 25 (mission age). I do not believe that the Lord would expect the choice young people of His Church to find their eternal mates among nonmembers or inactive members! He would not ask us to go against both His Counsel through the ages or against the counsel of his prophets. You will also get to know things about your date that you could not find out any other way because with more people, there is naturally more conversation. Do not make it a habit to be out late or up late for that matter. Resistance seems to be lower at night, so make it a habit to be in early from your dates.