We fight now more than ever, after one year of marriage.
I am the Nag who insists that things be done to try to keep us "afloat" while he is the charming irresponsible one that others are charmed by.
However, like everybody else, people with ADHD are very self-conscious when it comes to dating.
Not only they would have to try pleasing their dates, they also need to keep their behavior in check.
People with ADHD make sense of the world differently than others.
For example, have you ever noticed that your partner hyper-focuses on things that truly grab his attention, and may tend to show up late because he got lost in time?
(Something I had taken care of myself years earlier but is now questionable, due to taking care of all the financial problems he had before we met).
This is NOT what I thought I would be doing at this point in my life but he has so many other charming qualities (like I am learning that most ADHD afflicted do).
Face it: you both simply focus and experience time differently (and by the way, have you ever considered that some of your traits may annoy him too? It's easy to understand how symptoms commonly associated with ADHD (hyper-focus, impulsivity, distractability, inattention and hyperactivity) can affect relationships.I wondered if the absence of visual distraction helped the situation. People with ADHD make sense of the world differently than others".Shortly out of a long-term relationship that ended by outside influences beyond our control, I was totally swept away online (@ match.com) by a man who gave me his total undivided attention (which was what I so badly needed...is also a typical ADHD trait un-beknownst to me at the time).I don't know what will happen with my marriage to a man with ADHD. Everybody deserves to love and be loved, including people with behavior problems like attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD).In light of some of the discord they experience, frequently the partner without ADHD wonders “why was I attracted to someone with ADHD in the first place, and why am I still in love with them despite the challenges?