They share custody of children and so chances are they communicate regularly, whether the divorce ended bitterly or smoothly.
At first this may seem okay to you but gradually you will get frustrated with their constant communication, even after he tells you they are only discussing the children.
All the check boxes are ticked, except for one – he is a divorcee.
Most people who date a divorced man ALWAYS ignore the basic facts and think that just because you've “fallen in love” everything will be all sunshine and rainbows.
There are also divorced guys who have never had kids. I find that a divorced guy, who has his own kids has a certain ease around children. He might end up really hitting it off with your kids. Is his breakup any less significant because he wasn’t legally hitched? Again, I’m not bashing the guy who has never been married. He could have always wanted to commit and just never found the right person. But the bottom line is, I shouldn’t be defining who someone is based on whether or not they have ever worn a wedding ring. Maybe divorced or never been married should be treated like a category, a checkbox, just like age group, gender, race or religion.
If you are dating someone who hasn’t been around kids much, they might not enjoy it. Or, he might fall madly in love with your kids and realize they want more. Or, maybe he committed (got engaged) and then the girl broke it off. All I’m saying is, the divorced guy proved he had the ability and the willingness to complete and utter monogamy (Then again, he could have been a huge cheater in the marriage.) Plus, maybe he never wants to commit again. The guy who never made that commitment in the first place doesn’t really get it (the commitment, I mean.) Not that that’s a bad thing. Everyone has a different story, and a reason why he ended up divorced or never married. I wish they had a checkbox for the things that really mean the most, like, “Are you going to love me unconditionally? ” and “Will you always cause my heart to beat fast when you walk into a room?
Most divorced men are never truly rid of the ex wives. They most likely have joints assets and even after the divorce, they are still connected in some sort of realm.
She may not be sharing a bed with him, but she still shares his life which means no matter how much you want it to just be two of you, it will always be three of you, regardless of whether she is in good or bad terms with him.
It is very likely that while your divorced man was married, he and his then wife had mutual friends.
They will smile and say hello to you but that’s it.
They will not friend you on Facebook, they won't follow you on Twitter or even bother to get to know you.
You will constantly battle to be the pride and centre of his universe.