I answered that I hadn’t really given it an extensive amount of thought but was kind of on the fence.He really wants to get married and have kids “by the time he’s 31, at the latest.” We both agreed we wouldn’t be compatible long term if we had different thoughts on this. He said he would give me time to think—like around a month—but I don’t know if I can give him a clear answer within that timeframe.
A: “I’m sure the day will come when I’m ready to take a break from baby duty and I’ll be so grateful for your help then, but right now I want to spend as much time with him as I can. I’m a 25-year-old teacher, and he’s a 27-year-old software programmer. I’m white and was raised in the Midwest but lived abroad for a couple of years.
A: A month isn’t very much time to decide whether or not you want to have children in the next four years before your boyfriend turns 31.
You like him, but you’re not in love, and you’ve only been seeing each other for a few months.
I’m almost tempted to message this guy from my brother’s account, asking him to stay away.
But I doubt this would fix anything, and it’s a huge boundary to overstep.
I wasn’t angry after the breakup, but I’m angry now. I almost never recommend that a letter writer send something snarky and passive aggressive to an ex, particularly an ex with a history of disregarding indirect responses.