Hi all, not sure how to get started so I'll spit it out I'm a 29 yr.
old black female in a very controlling marriage and I'm not happy in the least. In the meantime, there are some amazing people on this site.
One thing be aware of how addictive the site is, hmmm as if that is a bad thing (NOT), lol...29 is to young to be unhappy.
Over a period of time you can change his ways if you change yours.
Just need someone to talk to maby a little flirting. I believe you have come to the right place for finding what you are looking for...
These assets will remain yours as long as you can document them. Don’t overlook any assets—half of everything is yours!
If you have a PHT degree (Putting Honey Through), you might be entitled to some reimbursement for the cost of his tuition. Your attorney may give you legal advice, but all of the decisions are ultimately up to you. Try to be as dispassionate and businesslike as possible. Going through a divorce can sometimes make you feel like the captain of a leaky boat on stormy seas—there seems to be a new crisis at every turn.
View your attorney as a paid professional rather than a friend or confidante. Women tend to be supportive and sensitive to the needs of others, to build bridges, and to “make nice.” These tendencies often get in our way during divorce. You have to insist on getting what you need and deserve. If you don’t, you’ll still be able to take care of yourself financially. Use this time of upheaval to start taking control of your life.
When your grief is overwhelming, go home or to a friend’s house, not to your attorney, who is billing you at his normal hourly rate. Even if you hope that you will eventually be able to reconcile with your ex, don’t bend over backwards to make it happen. Vow never to worry in the dark—if you can’t sleep, turn on the light, pick up a pencil and paper, and write down your worries.
Make property division decisions based on your own long-term best interest, not out of revenge. Make an effort to bring the divorce to a successful conclusion with as little rancor as possible. Then, you can go back to sleep and deal with them first thing in the morning. Many women put their careers aside to concentrate on their families.
Lois is a 30 plus housewife with the sexual lust of a teenager.