) and he agrees with this sentiment, adding that were it not for therapy, he probably wouldn’t have met me because he probably wouldn’t have gone on to Ok Cupid (it works!
) because he probably wouldn’t have felt ready to date again.
“She should suggest he do that and get back to her when/if he has, and if she is still open to it, they can try again.”I never did talk to Brad again, but I heard he got married.Perhaps you’ve been in a relationship or married for years, but have now found yourself single again.Or maybe you’ve decided to try and meet someone having spent a period of time on your own.They all said the same thing: Dudes just don’t bounce back after they get their heart broken the way women do.Recently I asked my fiancé (miraculously, I landed a guy who pines after me!When I was 27 I started seeing a guy (let’s call him Brad), who was 10 years my senior. I was infatuated, revering Brad as the most wonderful guy I’d ever met, let alone dated. One of them was an ex he’d parted ways with over two decades ago. My first “real” boyfriend in college who I had been with for two years had once blubbered while we watched Jules et Jim because it was his ex’s favorite movie — an ex who left him because he’d cheated.