It is important to note that, nowadays in most families, the first two Khastegaris are done in one step.
Usually, the man and the woman already know each other and are the ones who have instigated the ceremony.
Though the concepts and theory of the marriage have been changed drastically by Islamic traditions, the actual ceremonies have remained more or less the same as they were originally in the ancient Iranian culture.
Although Iran is multi-ethnic country, Iranian wedding traditions are observed by the majority of ethnic groups in Iran and neighboring countries and regions such as Republic of Azerbaijan, Turkey and Iraqi Kurdistan.
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At the Second Khastegāri (Persian: خواستگاری دوم) a marriage proposal is made by the suitor and his family.
Once the man, or his family, had decided on a potential bride, the Khastegāri process would take place.
In modern Iran, this practice is replaced by the courtship of the man and woman and their mutual decision to start the khastegari process.
In modern times important characteristics are the education level and intelligence of the girl, her ability to make the most of the situation when times get tough, and her future prospects.
After hearing about the potential bride, the man's family will discuss his own merits, usually his education and/or career prospects.
The woman's parents will normally ask the suitor if he is able to provide her with accommodation, and if he is able to support their daughter financially. The most important part comes when the bride’s father calls for the tea to be served.