My college sweetheart whom I have dated for the past 5 years decided to move out of town.On that account, he decided to break off the relationship with me because he says that he is not ready to be in a relationship right now, but wouldn’t mind to come back with me once he’s ready (which is according to him in the next 5 years – after he has finished fooling around).In the weeks leading up to breakup I realised I had fallen in love with him. He knew he was not happy with me but still lead me on.Its now 7 months down the line and i still think of him eveyday. The way in which he broke up with me was extremely hurtful. i am acctualy going on the same situation as yours, i'm planning to talk to BF about it but i'm really scared.But at the same time, I feel that I’m not available for this new guy and I feel that I am cheating on him. He thinks he’s being a nice guy because he was “honest” that he needed five years to fool around, but all he’s doing is giving you false hope at a non-existent future. Watch as your relationship grows with your committed efforts. The only thing you lose when you cut off the ex is this: the fantasy that it’ll eventually work out. Actions speak far louder than words – both for you, and for him. Close off the possibility for true closeness and intimacy. Most of us cling to our fantasies as long as we can because a piece of us dies when we let them go. My ex basically keeps me on a leash – he’s not my boyfriend but he contacts me every day and knowing that I love him, it’s hard not to resist.The guy I am dating now doesn’t know of this situation and my ex also doesn’t know that I am dating someone else.
thandi i am sorry for you,but the way i see it you were tromatised in your exmarriage. My ex bf left me because he had feelings for the one before me.I TOLD HIM ABOUT MYPROBLEM THAT I MIGTH NOT HAVE KIDS AGAIN HE WAS DOWN ABOUT IT BUT HE TOLD ME IT IS FINE.RIGTH NOW WE ARE MARRIED BUT I CAN'T STOP THINKING ABOUT MY EX EACH AND EVERY DAY I THINK ABOUT HIM, WE HAVE BEEN DIVORCED FOR THREE YEARS NOW.You already know this and you called attention to it in your email. With a pretty clear path, if you want to know the truth. I've been with my current boyfriend for almost 6 months, and we are now living together.WHENI AM IN ONE ROOM WITH HIM I FEEL NOTHING FOR HIM HE FEELS LIKE MYBROTHER.