And it will not be easy to forget about your exhusband because you have the bond your children. We dated for 5 months while they apparently dated for 2 months.I got an sms from him saying that his belonged another. The truth is he lied to me and used me as his rebound.I feel like everything we had was probably a lie and I feel for someone who wwas still thining of someone else.I feel like I was nothing but I still can't shift these feelings I have for him. I know it's diffuclt to get over someone and maybe I am wrong and being biased cos I've been on the receiving end of it. My college sweetheart whom I have dated for the past 5 years decided to move out of town.
thandi i am sorry for you,but the way i see it you were tromatised in your exmarriage. My ex bf left me because he had feelings for the one before me.But at the same time, I feel that I’m not available for this new guy and I feel that I am cheating on him. He thinks he’s being a nice guy because he was “honest” that he needed five years to fool around, but all he’s doing is giving you false hope at a non-existent future. Watch as your relationship grows with your committed efforts. The only thing you lose when you cut off the ex is this: the fantasy that it’ll eventually work out. Actions speak far louder than words – both for you, and for him. Close off the possibility for true closeness and intimacy. Most of us cling to our fantasies as long as we can because a piece of us dies when we let them go. My ex basically keeps me on a leash – he’s not my boyfriend but he contacts me every day and knowing that I love him, it’s hard not to resist.The guy I am dating now doesn’t know of this situation and my ex also doesn’t know that I am dating someone else.Everything is perfect in our relationship, I honestly couldn't ask for more in a guy. But for some reason, the past few months of our relationship I havent been able to stop thinking about my ex. We were together 11 months and then his ex came back.