Online dating is addictive Right after I decided to stop going on OKCupid, I actually had to stop my hands from typing the "o" into my browser when I wanted a work break (OK I slipped up a few times, I'll admit it).
As with Twitter, Facebook, Linked In, and email, I checked it compulsively with the hope that some exciting notification would greet me on the homepage. I also realized that when I used Tinder, I was swiping compulsively to try to find out who my "super likes" were, often not even reading profiles.
When you rely on something for self-esteem or excitement, you feel disappointed when you don't see these rewards and you withdraw from other sources of happiness.
During the times I slipped on my hiatus and went on OKCupid, I realized I felt a sense of dread as the homepage loaded because I associated the site with disappointment and rejection.
The biggest reason I had for deleting my dating apps was just an insufficient return on investment.
Whether because we didn't have much in common or we weren't willing to put in much effort, my conversations rarely left the texting stage.
I felt like a lab rat mindlessly chasing its next pellet of food.3.
It's like gambling: The hope of winning is so strong and motivating, you don't even realize you're losing most of the time.4.
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Once I got over that hump, it was nice to not have people constantly evaluating how good my photos looked, and I think it made me, in turn, a bit less preoccupied with my looks.5.
Being single for a while is really not a problem When I was online dating, I was getting worried that I'd been single for —as if that was a lot.
I may not have had a significant other, but I had prospects.