He asked whether I ever offered coaching services, so I gave him my card.
After we left, my friend warned me I shouldn't have done that.
Despite the increasing general acceptance of intra-office romance, women who date a co-worker are more likely than men to be seen as using the relationship to get ahead at work.
Then there are classic concerns about weathering a breakup with someone in the next cubicle over. Rather than the endless buffet of potential mates on Ok Cupid or at the bar on Saturday night, the workplace offers a limited menu of people who are likely to have similar educational backgrounds and sensibilities. A woman who’s a software developer told me that she hesitated in dating someone else in the startup world — after all, they shared so many contacts and professional opportunities.
(Yeah, I wish this were equally true of young men, too.
It just .) “This generation is totally determined to have kids by the time they’re in their thirties because of fertility issues,” says career coach Penelope Trunk.
At thriving creative and tech companies, where employees are given dormlike amenities like yoga classes and cocktail hours, it seems almost silly to draw the line at dating.
“But once I decided it would be okay, she said, “the date turned out to be the guy I married.” As another woman who works in politics explained it, “You build these incredibly strong relationships under stressful circumstances and it’s natural that the people whom you feel you can rely on professionally (and the people you get belligerently drunk with after work) end up being good partners outside of those circumstances.”spent all of her early twenties dating fellow journalists, I would never advise a young woman to follow my example.
I didn’t suffer any professional disasters, but I did have to deal with a lot of personal anxieties I might not have experienced otherwise.
It seemed as if my friend's instincts were off, I thought. Earlier in our meeting, Bob described moving to the area as a 30-year-old in 1978 – the year I was born.
But just as I was about to leave, Bob admitted that he was not that interested in me as a writing coach, but as a romantic prospect. Yet when I rejected him, he looked stung and startled, as though he was completely unaware of our significant age difference.
If work isn’t work anymore, why would a workplace romance be off-limits?