His ex still gives him a hard time, but he says that he has moved on. Last week I bought up the subject and the answer wasn’t what I expected.He told me how great I was and that he loved what we have, but at this time, he didn’t have the capacity to commit to more.It still raises the question of how long that will take, but it’s a much different situation than an apathetic guy passively seeing a girl with little effort or interest in the future of the relationship. Try your best to be rational and to avoid jumping to conclusions…Having a title sounds like it would be reassuring, but if you were forced to choose between having an amazing relationship I would say that it would be a good move for you to take a look at what your thoughts are on the matter. I say this because when you mentioned that you proposed leaving the relationship after he didn’t want to call you his girlfriend, it struck me as kind of an extreme, all-or-nothing type of response.One thing I said was that if you’ve been seeing a guy for 3 months and he’s not calling you his girlfriend, chances are he won’t.
My rationale was that I was too emotionally caught up and didn’t know when he would have the ‘capacity.’ He was in utter shock!
I said that my future husband would just take my car and I would take his.
He told me that if we marry that that car switching wouldn’t work (he doesn’t like small cars) and that I better buy a car that could hold the entire family (including his family). I can tell you right off the bat that I can’t tell you what the best move is going to be, but I can understand the guy’s reluctance to make it official… For a guy who’s already been married and has custody for one of his two children, I can imagine why he would be very cautious in making commitments with a new woman.
He said that he expected me to pull back, but not cut it off completely.
Then, he back peddled and said he prays daily for god to release some of the things in his life.
All I can say is (from what you’ve told me) is that he sounds like he probably had a rough time with his first marriage and wants to be extra careful this time around.