Friends care about each others' happiness and well-being. #2: Are We Emotionally Honest and Vulnerable with Each Other?Two people who cannot be emotionally open with each other can never have true intimacy and love.To get married, you must be sure you have great communication.The reason is that marriage is nothing but problems!
We tend to be afraid to share what we feel because expressing it makes us vulnerable; it’s dangerous.
Giving in order to get something back is being a taker. " If you're not ready to be fully responsible, you're not ready to get married. The one place he doesn’t need to feel more pressure is at home. John Gottman’s new book, The Science of Trust.) The essential issue of trust is captured in the question, “Are you there for me? Can I trust that you will provide a safe home for my feelings and needs? Listening to another person’s feelings is one of the greatest acts of kindness we can perform.
An important question to ask yourself is, “Do I enjoy giving to this person or do I find it burdensome? For a man marriage isn’t about getting his needs met. The three A’s of cherishing a woman are: Attention, Affection, and Appreciation. Making your wife feel loved and cherished is not just a nice idea; it's a Torah obligation. He needs you to believe that he is trying hard to provide for you and the needs of the family. If you don’t trust each other with your feelings, think twice about getting married. One of two things happens in a marriage: People either grow together or grow apart.
When you start thinking that he/she may be the one, make sure you ask these ten questions before you tie the knot.
#1: Do We Care about Each Other as Good Friends Do?
He currently runs a private practice in Beverly Hills, California specializing in adult psychotherapy, personal growth counseling, dating coaching, and marital therapy.