Rubber band theory of dating

In truth, many people end up in lasting and happy relationships with someone who is well outside the scope of who they thought they were looking to find. That is why I like to say, ‘date around, don’t sleep around.’ In other words, open yourself up to the possibilities that are out there, without becoming too attached too quickly and thereby narrowing your view of the possible relationships that might be right for you.Scotch asks: What is the best way to communicate with a guy?Basically, he just needs a time out from everything.This doesn’t mean that he’s stopped thinking of you, loving you or that he wants to break up.It is for this very reason that I always encourage women to have an active and engaged social life that reaches above and beyond the relationship she has with her significant other.

Now the danger is that he will start to feel overwhelmed, unable to think straight and the chance of resolve is now much lower. There should be no forcing him out by drama, blackmail, or game playing.In reality she should talk about the relationship when he is open and receptive — not when he is pulling back.Remember, as I wrote in several Mars/Venus books, ‘men are like rubber bands.’ They pull away, and they bounce back. Actually, ignore him a bit and engage in other areas of your life, don’t make the mistake of making him your primary connection to having a social life.Along with his 17 other books, including his bestseller, Mars and Venus on a Date, John’s books have been translated into 45 languages and sold over 45 million copies worldwide.I am focusing on the reason behind men’s withdrawal from relationships.We may even chase them determined to find out what the problem is.

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