Lad mig begynde med at sige at jeg stadig elsker thailandske piger, og jeg tror at dit liv kan blive fuldendt på mange måder, hvis du finder den rigtige thai pige.
Jeg er ikke stoppet med at lede efter den eneste ene, jeg har bare fokuseret min indsats, anvendt min viden og vigtigst af alt, anerkendt de faresignaler jeg har set.
But there is a definite demographic shift going on when it comes to our relationships.
Their comfort eating and drinking is often a symptom of their unhappiness – but a fear of being alone stops them from tackling the real problem. My children are becoming more independent and this is my golden time. I don’t have to go to boring business dinners as a plus-one, or schlep up the motorway to visit someone else’s parents.
Many fiftysomething women’s desire for a different kind of life is also hindered by the need to look after ageing parents and/or demanding children. I don’t have to cook “his” dinner or do “his” washing. I can go on holiday when and where I want, I can eat the food I fancy and spend my money exactly as I please.
Of course, having three children, aged nine, 13 and 16, does clip my wings a bit.
And indeed, concern for them is another important factor in why I am not flinging myself at the first available man.
I now shudder when I hear a woman say, “I’ll have to ask my husband.” I finally understand my Great Aunt Florence, who never married and lived alone in a cottage by the sea, happily collecting cat ornaments.