Dirty talking may be new to me, but paying attention in class is something I know well, so I decided to treat this like it was merely a more inappropriate AP biology class.There were only six students the night I attended, so we all had ample time to speak up about our own reasons for being there.When (or if) someone does see your listing, the will have a simple “Yes” or “No” option to show interest. Saying yes will make the user aware of your interest in them.If they have a similar attraction to you, you’ll be able to request more photos or open communication via chat to plan a meet up.A Google search led me to the class, which markets itself as a chance to “learn how to be a dirty girl over the phone, in a text, or in the bedroom,” and notes that everyone receives a “Dirty Talk Thesaurus and Mad Lib sheet.” So, out of a fusion of curiosity, insecurity, and a love of Mad Libs, I decided to give it a shot.And that’s how I found myself wearing a name tag that read “Pound It In Paula,” picked at the beginning of class out of a pile that also included “Finger Me Felicity” and “Ride Me All Night Natalia.” My name is not Paula, but I decided to embrace my temporary identity, put on my reading glasses, and take notes like the diligent student I’d always been.Obviously, you could run out of tickets quickly depending on how desperate you are or how proficient you are at the act of intercourse.
There’s also a catch you should know about: only your first five hook up attempts are free. By downloading the app, you’re given five free tickets to start.Later, I chatted with sex therapist Ian Kerner to see if any of the lessons I’d learned could actually be of service. “The cool thing about dirty talk is that it’s not just words — but it’s words that can create physiological and sexual responses in our body,” Kerner explained, adding that people need to stop being “so darn serious” during sex. When you were a little kid you could make-believe and pretend and say things, and you need to learn that when you’re an adult, you can still play during sex.” That’s also what Smith told me was the point of the class. “When something is uncomfortable for us sexually, a lot of women just giggle instead of saying how we feel or being honest about the situation,” explains Kimberly Smith, the owner of Strip Xpertease and a former exotic dancer.“It’s packaged as dirty talk,” she added, “but I think really it’s about being able to be present and saying what you need and what you want, which is what’s missing from a lot of bedrooms across the world.” We did get some tips for what to do to avoid cracking up — but our instructor that night, Selma, also said if we had to laugh, we should laugh; sex is supposed to be fun, anyway.Some of the other women, like me, were freshly single and getting back out there; others were looking to spice things up in their long-term relationships.