“Even a guy who doesn’t make much money if he really likes you will try to impress you to the utmost that he can,” says Battista As for women?“In my experience, 90% will be offended if a guy doesn’t offer to pay,” says Battista.Most first dates come straight out of the pages of a 1920s romance novel, and after a man generously treats a woman, he still expects something in return.Namely, he expects her to return the favor of paying. ) An Elle/survey of about 74,000 online readers found that most guys want gals to help with the check after a few free meals.So when he offers to pick up the tab, says Battista, “Let him.Practice being courted.” Mendez agrees, and says letting him pay initially can be a small way of letting a relationship blossom.
So, when in doubt, how I tapped relationship experts Marni Battista, founder of Dating With and Bernardo Mendez of Your Great Life TV for some guidelines. Battista and Mendez both agree that it’s generally best for men to pay on a first date.“The rules of courtship are in the transitional period,” said Diane Mapes, a dating expert and author of “How to Date in a Post-Dating World.” “There is a lot of confusion and frustration — and expectation out there.” That’s likely why guys tend to follow the trusted traditional etiquette — at first.But it’s becoming a courtesy for gals to offer after that. But tossing them an offer throws them into a fool’s game: If guys accept or refuse, they risk offending gals.“It does let him know, in a subtle yet important way, that you are the kind of woman who is confident enough to accept his generosity,” he says.This is not meant to set some sort of precedent where he pays all the time.When those expectations aren’t met, the evening could end awkwardly.