I found out my fiancé had been receiving more than friendly texts from a woman that he previously worked with.We had a horrific argument which ended in me leaving with our 9 month old baby – as my fiancé would not show me his mobile phone bill to prove he had not been participating in these texts.Perhaps you’d like to make the bedroom a smartphone/tablet-free area, so you can concentrate on each other – chatting over the day or having sex together.What about meal times, when you’re watching the TV or going out together?Most men hardly talk to their friends and text conversations / joke sharing on twitter etc happen only sporadically.
In my experience of thirty years helping couples as a marital therapist, you’ve fallen into one or more of the following traps.
If the phone rang, in the past, it was most probably a close friend or someone calling to arrange a social event (like a match in a golf tournament).
Any body in the house might answer and everybody had a rough idea of each other’s friends and engagements.
However, it can equally be a sign that the ‘friendship’ has moved to the next phase and your husband knows either consciously or unconsciously that he has something to hide. Does he seem to find constant fault or is irritable and snappy for no reason?
This is because he’s looking for reasons to justify his bad behaviour, so what used to mildly annoying has become proof, in his mind, that your relationship is fundamentally flawed.
Your partner getting caught up in social media is probably a sign that he is unhappy about something but believes it’s pointless to say anything as he expects to be attacked or his concerns dismissed.