There’s a fine line between underselling yourself and blowing your own trumpet when it comes to dating online. Follow these dos and don’ts gleaned from thousands of couples matched by e Harmony and move from online relationship to the real deal.When trying to spark someone’s interest over email, you’ve got to be fun, engaging and good at creating a rapport, while keeping an element of mystery. Do: be proactive Don’t let that classic British reserve hold you back.Don’t bite the hand that might be feeding you your soulmate. You don’t need to share all your dirty little secrets in your profile, but you shouldn’t use deception to lure dates either. Never list what you’re looking for money-wise or baby-wise in a relationship. Everyone likes “having fun” and would list their musical tastes as “eclectic.” You’re certainly not the only person who “can’t live without oxygen, friends, and family.” Fill your profile with details that reflect you as an individual. Related: Don’t provide a list of dating rules or expectations — unless you don’t want anyone to contact you. Most of these services offer handy tools such as searchable databases, which make it easy to find people in your area (as well as people who share your interests).When replying to a match via email, use two-to-three-sentence responses.
Do: meet up in person ASAP A potential pitfall of dating online is that people can get lulled into a passive email exchange that lasts for months rather than actually pursuing a date.
Share enough to excite and intrigue your potential match, while leaving them wanting more.
Follow this rule of thumb: keep profile answers concise and fun.
Expect the same in return from anyone you meet when dating online. Call the person out on it, report his or her behaviour if it’s detrimental to anyone else, and move on quickly.
Don’t: lead someone on If you’re not keen, make it tactfully clear as soon as possible. If someone contacts you and you’re not interested, be respectful enough to send a short and thoughtful rejection.
The danger of this is that you can become emotionally invested in a potential match, only to discover that when you meet in person, the spark isn’t there. Once a connection is clear, it’s time to take your online dating into reality, even if you have to initiate things.